Learn How You Recharge

Do you really know the best ways for YOU to recharge?



5/23/20223 min read

I was attending a mindset seminar this morning and picked up a really good point that I wanted to talk about today.

We have been on a bit of a mental health and mindset wellness kick lately and this bit of knowledge I heard gave me that huge kick of inspiration. I was debating what to blog about today, going back and forth between a few topics, but then I realized this was meant to be for today.

Recharging is NOT the same for each person.

What works for one person, may not work for you, may not work for each of your family members, and may not work for the main people that you want to recharge with, if anyone at all. You may not understand why the other person is recharging the way they do. You don't have to. It's their method and they know it works for them. But what about you? Do you know how to recharge in a way that is actually going to help you?

Let's do a quick exercise to help you get this figured out:

1. Think about your top 5 to 10 ways that you like to recharge with.

2. Dwell upon each of those methods. Answer this question to yourself honestly. It's an opinion question, not an "I should" question. How do you feel after a time period with this activity?If you feel the same, it isn't recharging you. If you feel worse, it is preventing recharging from occurring and doing more damage. If you feel lighter, happier, more refreshed, like you have more energy, it works.

3. Next question, does the activity come with any negative consequences for you, like your health or finances, or to others?

4. Other people may not understand why we do what we do to recharge. If your method looks unconventional, are you prepared to justify yourself? No? Here's a good one.

"Oh, this? I do this because I actually feel more ________ when I do this. You do __________. I do this. It works, so I'm going to stick with it!"

5. As you are going through your list of recharge methods from #1, begin to weed out the methods that don't work. Do you still enjoy the activity though? What does it do for you then? Does it at least deserve "B List" status then? Maybe if you had time for one method and then another?

Let me use an example. Let's say that the top three recharge methods you have are exercise, meditation and coloring mandalas. After examining these questions you realize the following:

-Exercise is super beneficial and a rest after a great workout feels awesome. But there's a lot of thinking that occurs and even though your body feels great, maybe your mind doesn't feel rested.

-Meditation is nice, but challenging. You feel like you should have been able to shut the mind off and felt recharged, but the guided session off of YouTube ended before you could get there, as your thoughts couldn't get away from what you needed to do next. You are glad you tried, but bummed or stressed that it might have been wasted time. But isn't meditation supposed to be the go-to?

-Coloring mandalas makes you focus on just the tiny little shapes and colors. You enjoy planning where the color switches will occur and seeing the patterns unfold in your mind before they actually become an image. You enjoy the satisfaction of seeing the image become real. You're unable to think about the day's task, your stressors and anything else. When you finish coloring, you're ready to tackle the next thing with a clear head.

It's clear to see this person should make coloring their go-to recharge activity. They identified that the other two activities, while they might have their benefits, aren't actually accomplishing a proper recharge.

Should those activities be scrapped? No. Just B-listed. They aren't the go-tos, but if the person knows they are still important, they should still happen.

Meditation, for example, takes practice and consistency. I'd like to think it's impossible to have a perfect meditation session the first time, or many times after. I'd love for it to be my perfect mental recharge, and I enjoy it. But it doesn't do for me what I'd like it to.

The important mental difference to make is CATEGORIZATION. The Go-To is what we're calling it here. The Go-To is the medicine, the fixer, the balancing activity for all you are taxed with each day. Everything else may take your mental energy. The Go-To gives it back. Of course this is along with healthy food, water, sleep and other conditions of your 8 areas of wellness. It all works together, but if you know what that Go-To is, and your mind knows that it is recharging you back up, then you are using your time efficiently. And your Go-To is unique to you. It may not do the same for your significant other as it does for you. Don't forget that!

Mine is gardening and video games. Video games allow my mind to shut off, which is hard to do. Gardening permits me the time to get fresh air and allows my mind the time to process things. I feel very refreshed or decompressed after each.